There is nothing like the weekend. It’s been said before. Still, there are times when I wake up from a nap, make myself a cup of tea with soymilk, and sip it on the living room couch, looking out the window onto snowy Independence Park, and am struck with so much pleasure and gratitude that I’m nearly incredulous.
I’ve lived in the house that I share with my husband, our cat, three sets of tenants (and their dog and two cats) for a little over two years. We spent the first three years of our marriage in a 3-bedroom apartment in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, where we rented out the other two rooms. It was supposed to be temporary, but we hadn’t planned on it being 3 years. That’s a long time for a married couple to share a kitchen and bathroom with roommates!
Granted, the location was amazing, with Manhattan just two stops away on the L train, cafes aplenty outside our doorstep, and a backyard with a cherry tree, fig tree, and grapevines…yes, trees grow in Brooklyn. Once, a NY Times reporter contacted me for a story on the number of responses Williamsburgers get to Craigslist ads for subletters, and it’s true, there was no shortage of interested parties.
Regardless, a certain strain was inherent in our living situation, so moving to our own house has been a little piece of heaven. I’m still getting used to having a guest room, living room, and dining room. I don’t have to guess if it’s our food in the fridge or someone else’s.
My husband doesn’t even seem to mind taking out the trash, a job that we (thankfully) assigned along traditional gender lines. Maybe he enjoys the feeling of proprietorship. (It’s *our* trash, well ours and the tenants’, ha ha). In any case, I get it–when I mop the kitchen, something I could probably stand to do more often, I have the feeling that this is *our* floor. It’s a feeling I never had as a renter.
I should take this opportunity to clear the air and share that we live in Newark, and it’s a lot nicer than you think. 🙂 (Don’t tell too many people, though, or you’ll drive up the cost of living.) We live in the Ironbound, a mostly Portuguese and Brazilian neighborhood 22 minutes on the PATH train from World Trade (hence the title of this blog).
Purchasing a multi-family house with three bedrooms for ourselves wouldn’t have been possible in the urban core of Brooklyn. We just have to put up with the occasional response, “you live in Newark? You just hear Newark and you think…” (then they make a face, trailing off). People’s memories of the ’67 riots die hard.
Yet I feel like I’m in Europe or South America. My hairdresser kisses me on the cheek. I can get a “galao” (Portuguese for latte) for under two bucks, and an excellent fish dinner at any number of restaurants.
There are tons of cultural amenities. We live near NJ PAC, where we’ve heard the NJ Symphony Orchestra, and brought my family to readings at the Geraldine Dodge Poetry Festival. My brother-in-law gave us a patron’s membership to the Newark Museum one Christmas, whose Asian, American, African, and Classical art collections we’ve enjoyed, as well as the Ballantine House. There’s excellent hiking 25 minutes away–not to mention Branch Brook Park in Newark proper, with the largest collection of cherry blossoms in the country.
I’ve gotten involved as a mentor with Big Brothers Big Sisters, which paired me with an amazing 10-year-old girl. We go on “dates” as she calls them, to all the best that the area has to offer, both in Newark and nearby towns (like the Paper Mill Playhouse in Millburn where we saw “A Christmas Carol,” and Turtle Back Zoo). I’m hoping to take her to the Newark Museum and the Dodge Poetry Festival later this year, and perhaps to see a game at the Prudential Center (where the Super Bowl Media Day was held).
It’s good to have a home, and good to have a neighborhood. I’m grateful for small pleasures on a wintry day, like writing my blog with the cat on my lap and a cup of tea, watching late-afternoon strollers in the park and hearing the chatter of birds.
What are you most grateful for about your neighborhood and home? Do you have any special morning or evening rituals? What do you enjoy about weekends where you live? I’d love to hear from you–please leave a comment and click “share!”